Why is my mom so hateful behind my back about my choice of being vegan!? via /r/vegan


Why is my mom so hateful behind my back about my choice of being vegan!?

I've been a vegan for about 1.5 years and my mom always told me that she would support my decision but her actions speaks otherwise. She is not the biggest supporter but never shames me (like my stepfather and uncle does) and when I come over for dinner she always has something for me to eat (although its like the bare minimum for me, but its fine because at least she thinks about it).

But today I was having lunch with my sisters and they told me that she always rants about me when I leave or when she has the chance. She complains that she has to buy specifically things for me when we eat together (eventhough I always ask and say its not a problem for me to get it myself!) and that she really hates that I have to be different of everybody else. And told my youngest sister that she should stop making desserts specially for me, because she thinks its bullshit she does that for me (my youngest sister always makes desserts when we have dinner together). I never ask her to make one for me, but she always insist. She complains that its my fault if I have trouble to go out for dinner and that I don't have the right to complain if theres no real vegan option.

I'm truly shocked that why she thinks this is supporting me and I don't know if I should tell her how this makes me feel or just let it be and suck it up. Even my grandma is supporting me truly and always proudly shows me pictures if she found something I can eat when I visit her! But I feel so backstabbed and wondering why people so close to you are so hateful about the fact that I don't consume animals and even lie about being supportive when they're clearly not.

So what would you do in this situation?

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